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"And then whilst the Success Monster is cheering you on, the Fail monster behind him is bigger and meaner and just waiting for you."
We’ve all heard of the fear of failure; that fear where it changes possible initial enthusiasm to that feeling of outright disaster all from a single, nervous query “have I got everything covered?”
So you go over your list or tasks over again, and then you might add another task, or tweak an action. “But what if that or this happens?”, you ask yourself. So you add another task. And another. And soon the spiralling affects and sheer weight of what you think should be done creates that massive Fail monster who starts convincing you that everything will turn to crap.
But sometimes there’s another type of monster. This monster wants you to succeed. You’ve got a game plan? “Great! You’ll be great!”, cheers the monster. So you do great things. Sure, you’ve got a tons of other things on your plate, but this monster is right in front of you holding back that Fail monster, allowing you to knock off your tasks quickly and confidently.
In fact, you’re feeling great because nothing can stop you! As you near the completion of your game plan, this Success monster starts to show you the potential positive results. You’ll succeed in that job/project/deliverable, and “…you’ll set a benchmark for others to hold you by. They’ll expect no less than that. So you have to do more. Take on more. Be more! Come on! Yay!”
But you’re tired. And you can’t keep working at full capacity. And then whilst the Success Monster is cheering you on, the Fail monster behind him is bigger and meaner and just waiting for you.
So you drop the ball. You don’t feel like achieving what you set out to do, because everyone else will expect you to constantly be successful. You want to throw in the towel, because ultimately the two monsters may seem different, they are still monsters.
There are some techniques and skills which can I help you with to overcome these monsters, but here’s 3 monster busting tips to get you started:
Let’s make those monsters work for us!
Yes. And. Now. - Ivan Chew
I’ll be covering more on fear and gaining confidence at the Supercharge Your Business event on Saturday 09 April 2016 at Academy Xi together with 3 other guides and coaches covering clarity, sales and marketing, which will help give you the tools to ascend further up your path.
You’ll gain knowledge to abate those monsters (“Yes, I have everything covered! And I know my true self expectations! Begone, monster!”), so if you want to help yourself, register for the event at http://www.sybevent.com