Dating. It's a minefield, isn't it?
You could be the cool and collected type, where nothing goes wrong but if it does, it's like water off a duck's back. But is that being too aloof?
Or maybe you've been thinking about what to wear, what to eat, where to go, and a million other things so that everything goes just right. And obviously, you're intense about it, at the end of the night you wonder why it didn't go all to plan?
And first impressions count, right? So you have to impress them with your wit and banter; you need to 'wow' them! You know it's too crass to mention anything about money, so you list your accomplishments. But is that sounding too arrogant? Why is your date so quiet?
There is an article on Psychology Today which addresses reducing dating anxiety, and you know what? It's the basics of improv once again...
In the post by Dr Jeremy Nicholson, the good doctor mentions that:
"...this social anxiety, fear of rejection, or shyness ends up holding some people back. It (sic) preventing them from having the love life they want. But, these feelings don't have to hold you back too. They can be reduced and controlled..."
He then mentions research conducted about the tendency to feel both anxiety and curiosity in social interactions. Basing on that notion, he advises being more curious than anxious to get oneself out of one's head, and gives the five (5) tips for curious dating. Now, the tips are a good start not just for dating but to use in every interaction you have with anyone, but it's not new because...
Improv covers this. Well, at least I do in my classes.
Here are the tips Dr Nicholson gives, and I'll add my two cents to it as well:
Thought I would keep this bit separate as no one likes being sold something, but if you want to have a fun time, learn something and meet new people, I've set up "SOCIALLY IMPROVISED" for the 25th September 2013 in the Sydney CBD.
You can get tickets from the BOOKING page on the right. Just select the date on the calendar and get it through Eventbrite. Alternatively, click HERE to go directly to the tickets page.
It sure beats speed dating with repeating the same questions and answers over and over again. :D
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