Often when I've just met someone and then having spoken to them for some time, they generally note how open, friendly and positive I tend to be - a people's person, so to speak. In most cases, they wish that they could be like that too, but it's not in their nature. They tend to be introverted or can never find anything to carry a conversation.
You know what? I was just like them, and still in some instances am - an introverted and negative person who just can't find anything to talk about.
This is a true story; this was how I was growing up.
I was a very quiet and shy kid growing up. I didn't have that many friends, but the ones I did have were quite close to me (which is a given - who else was there to compare to??). I didn't like crowds or people, and I hated attention - the type of kid that would rather be left alone in his room not being talked with, but secretly would love it when someone would talk with him. But the fear of not knowing what to say, whether it be funny or smart, would make me go into my own little shell even more.
That was primary school. So obviously high school would be a lot better, right? You've got new friends, the opposite gender (I was in an all boys school previously) to impress and people tend to treat you less than a child than, well, when you were a child.
No, I was still shy.
In the first few years of high school, I wouldn't say a peep to the girls but rather look away or stare at my feet. I wouldn't volunteer answers in class because I didn't want people to look at me or if I gave the wrong answer, to judge me. Again, I had a close group of friends, and that was great. I survived high school, but I could've lived a bit more - I could've tried new sports, talk to girls more, volunteered more. But, hey, that was high school, so that's still a fairly protective environment.
Things would definitely change during the university days, right? Or at the very least when I started working in the big, bad world where it's essentially sink or swim, surely.
No - it only changed in 2006. When I won a lucky dip prize to do a course taught by Lyn Pierse. That was the first step of being the more confident, friendly and open person I am today.
I'll tell you in the next blog update. ;)